letting someone down // #fail
Monday, 6th July 2009
What do you do when you let someone down? I sit there for hours at a time and I think about everything that surrounded the event…over and over and over and over and over and over and over…
I usually accomplish nothing.
Any suggestions?
HC
Monday, 6th July 2009 at 4:48 am
I struggle deeply with this issue as well…I hate to disappoint or hurt someone. When it does happen, it tears me up for days and I try to replay all the events to “fix” it. Usually it cannot be fixed. After apologizing – usually over and over again – I have learned to forgive myself and move forward. If I stay in the mess, my ministry and love for people are paralyzed, I become too focused on self and not enough on others.
bslash
Monday, 6th July 2009 at 4:50 am
wow, good word. that is helpful to me. Sounds like we’re a lot a like in the initial stages.
Valerie
Monday, 6th July 2009 at 5:00 am
I have found that if I can just “suck it up” and go immediately and ask forgiveness, this is always best. Otherwise, it just festers and compounds. One hard lesson I’ve also learned is that even if what I”ve done was the “right” thing, I still need to apologize if that “right” thing hurt someone. Their pain is their pain, and I caused it whether I was right or wrong. And I can’t say,’I'm really sorry, BUT what I did was right..” or “I’m sorry IF I hurt you..” That “if” qualifier really just negates the whole apology. If what I did was necessary, God will take care of it. I just have to do my part in the healing process. Where have a learned this most? In marriage AND with kids!! GEESH! Talk about humbling!